Firstly, we are looking at how we can help our children (and ourselves!) emotionally when we return to school after the break.
Speak positively about the school holidays
We know that as parents you are excited about school
starting back as you return to routines and don’t have to keep the kids
entertained all day! ;) There are bound to be times in the holidays that you
haven’t felt like the best parent or your children have driven you crazy! Try
and let go of thinking of those times and as the holidays come to an end, have
a chat to find out what your kids liked most about the holidays and share what
you enjoyed too. Telling them positive things about their time at home with you
reminds them that although you’ve been fed up sometimes, they haven’t been
pests the whole time!
Listen
Have you ever heard your child say something like “I don’t
want to go back to school! I hate school!” Yep, most kids say this as the start
of term looms near. And, it may well be that they’re just grumpy about not
being able to sleep in anymore. Or they could be concerned about who their
teacher is. One way we can respond is to say “You’ll be alright; you’ll see all
of your friends again!” or “Why don’t you like school? You’ve got it so easy!” When
we say this, what your child might think is that you haven’t listened and are
just palming him off.
Instead, another way to respond is to sympathise (without
going overboard) and let your child know that you have heard them and that you
acknowledge it is hard to go back after a long time off. Something like “Yeah,
it’s hard to get back into routine and not be able to sleep in anymore, isn’t
it?” or “You’ve enjoyed running in bare feet all summer, it’ll feel weird to
wear shoes and socks again, won’t it?” After all, adults feel that way after a
holiday too!
When we respond to children this way, two things happen: Firstly,
they feel like we have listened to what they’ve said. And secondly, if there is
a real issue with school that they are concerned with, a conversation has been
started, making them feel more inclined to open up about exactly what it is
they are worried about.
Ease yourselves into it.
After a long break, it’s very hard to automatically jump
back into our old routines. Go easy on the after-school activities and extra
things on the weekends at first, particularly if your children are young. As a
parent, you will also need time to adjust and get used to packing lunches and
running here and there. Taking time to relax and reward yourself after having
the kids at home with you and juggling work and childcare could be just what
you need to get the term off to a great start.Rhonda Mackay
*Rhonda is a writer and mother of 2 girls. She has a special interest in emotional health and enjoys both the laziness of the school holidays and the peace of the school term in equal amounts! ;)